The Question You Need To Ask Yourself

Let me tell you a story about two friends. Two friends grew up together. They went to the same school.

They had matching hobbies; they even had the same ambitions. You could say that they were identical in every way.

However, after they were done with their education, they went their separate ways. Many years later, this is how they ended up.

One friend became extremely successful in every aspect. He became financially independent through a series of businesses he started. He made a circle of quality and trustworthy friends.

He was healthy and fit enough to run a marathon. And most importantly, he was happy and content with his life.

The other friend, however, became the exact opposite. He failed at every business he started and wasn’t even able to pay his bills. He barely had any friends.

He became overweight, and taking the stairs was enough to tire him out. And worst of all, he was miserable and frustrated with his life.

However, no matter how different their lives became, those two friends still kept in touch.

They talked to each other every day. That’s because those two friends were the same person. The first friend was that person’s best and definitive version, while the second one was his worst version.

You and I both have those two friends inside of us. All of us do.

What I wanted to tell you with this story, however, is that we can become either one of them. We have the potential to become a successful friend, just like we have the option to end up being the miserable one.

Which one we end up becoming, though, is determined by the choices we make every day. The first friend didn’t become successful overnight.

Instead, he achieved his success slowly through a series of right daily decisions. The second friend also didn’t end up where he did in a single day.

He also did it slowly by making bad daily choices. It’s just that those choices then added up over the years. 

Let me show you exactly how both friends ended up where they did. Every day, both of them had to choose between a few options.

When they got hungry, they chose between eating a chocolate bar or preparing a healthy meal.

When they got home from work, they choose between playing video games or reading a business book.

When they got bored, they choose between mindlessly watching TV or spending some quality time with friends.

I think you can guess which choice each of them made. Of course, that one decision didn’t make a ton of difference.

At least, not at first. But because the choices were repeated over and over again, after a few years, the consequences began to show.

The unsuccessful friend might have only eaten one chocolate bar per day, roughly 200 extra calories. 

But when he repeated that he gained an additional 20 pounds of weight every day for one year. Quite a lot for one tiny chocolate bar.

The successful friend had read ten pages of a business book per day, which took roughly 30 minutes of his time.

But because he managed to do that every day, he read 15 business books in 1 year.

Not bad for a 30-minute investment. This is why I want you to think about the choices you make daily.

It would be best if you didn’t neglect the impact they may have. Because when we repeat a specific behavior, again and again, it has dramatic consequences over time.

Now let’s say that over one day, you make roughly 10 of these small decisions. And each decision takes you 1 step in one of the two directions.

Either towards your ideal self or your worst self. When you choose to eat a salad instead of french fries, you make a step towards your definitive version.

Likewise, if you eat fries instead of the salad, you make a step towards your worst version. Ok, so you make ten decisions per day, which means you make ten steps towards either direction.

But if you’re like most people, you’re not heading down either path. Instead, you’re standing somewhere in the middle. Each day you take a few steps towards one direction, but you also take the same amount in the opposite one.

Five right decisions and five bad choices.

Canceling each other out. Now imagine if you could replace just one malicious daily behavior with a positive one. What if instead of 5 steps forward and five steps back, you make six steps forward and only 4

steps back?

Suddenly you’re on a completely different trajectory. Instead of standing in the same place, you’re taking two steps towards the best version of yourself.

Of course, it’s even better if you can make ten right decisions every day.

However, that’s highly unrealistic since nobody can continuously do that.

But you don’t have to do it all the time. It’s enough that you pick the excellent decision more often than the bad one.

The only thing that matters is that you’re heading down the correct path.

So next time you jump on the couch in front of the TV with your phone in hand, ask yourself

if this is the best choice you’re making.

Or is there something else, something better that you could choose to do instead? I like to think about this all the time. To be more precise, the question that’s often on my mind is:

“What would the best version of me do?”

This question is beneficial, as it allows me to pause, evaluate my behavior, and re-adjust my actions if needed.

I understand that if I want to become the best version of myself, I need to be doing what my ideal performance would.

Not tomorrow, or next week, but today. A lot of people love to delay their actions. They believe that they will somehow be more motivated, energetic, and hardworking in the future. But it’s that same belief that keeps them from their true potential.

Most don’t realize that when the future rolls around, they will not be a different person magically.

They’re most likely going to be the same person they are right now if they don’t take the necessary actions to become better. And most recognize this only when they’ve spent years on the wrong path.

They kept thinking that they would change in the future, but in the end, they never did.

So now they need to make even more good daily decisions to get back on track. This is why we must do what our best version would do today.

Not tomorrow or next week. It’s the decisions we make daily that dictate who we become in the future. So ask yourself what would the ideal version of yourself be doing today.

It’s an excellent question to ask yourself. I know you understand the importance of daily choices now.

They have the power to impact your future, for better or for worse dramatically. You might not see the impact of your decisions today, probably not even tomorrow.

But when your choices are compounded over time, they begin to show. When we make good choices over and over, we become a successful friend. When we repeat bad decisions, again and again, we become unsuccessful ones.

 

So which version will you choose to be today?

Your worst version or your best version?

 

Hopefully, you’re going to be your best version today.

After all, this is how you become better than yesterday.

 

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